Change usually doesn't require a demolition

The stories we hear about change are extreme, because extreme is memorable. Quit everything. Sell the house. Leave the marriage. Move to the coast.

Occasionally that is exactly right. More often the extreme fantasy is doing something else: it makes change feel impossible, which is restful, because impossible things do not require action this week.

Find the load-bearing wall

In most stuck lives there are one or two structural things. A role that no longer fits. A relationship with an unspoken agreement in it. A financial commitment that quietly dictates every other decision.

Everything else is decoration. Move the structural thing and a surprising amount reorganises without being touched. Redecorate around it and nothing changes, expensively.

Small does not mean timid

One difficult conversation with the right person will alter more than a year of general self-improvement. It is smaller and considerably harder, which is why people prefer the general self-improvement.

So: what have you built that you actually want to keep? Start there. It narrows the question fast.